First of all, let’s talk about what leadership is NOT! Leadership is not about finally arriving at a place where you can do unto others what has been done to you! Some sick and twisted rite of passage where you get to dehumanize, demotivate and demoralise others, just because you feel that now you can finally dish out what you “couldn’t” to the people who did it to you! You remember. Those feelings of worthlessness, incompetence and not being good enough. All the feelings that were envoked in you by someone who was in a position of authority over you. Remember the feelings of helplessness and how powerless you felt to be able to do anything about it? So I just have one question for you; why in the world would you want to make someone else feel like that??? You might be inclined to make the argument that, they’d do it if they were me. But they’re NOT you. You’ve been “blessed” with a wonderful “opportunity and a responsibility” to impact change in the way leadership is viewd and exercised! Here is where the wonderful world of soft skills comes into play! Mentoring, encouraging, coaching, developing and uplifting people to be better than they are is what leadership is all about! In other words, heart leadership! I can hear you in your mind right now. You’re saying, no one did that for me so how and why should I do that for someone else? Because in doing so, you become part of the solution instead of continuing the long, dreadful and dreaded, exhausting problem!!
It’s the soft skills in the people that you work with that make it fun to come to work! You don’t hear the alarm clock sound off in the morning and want to throw it out of the window because you hate your job! Soft skills in your leadership make you want to be like them not hate to see them coming to work every morning. Soft skills in your leadership make you want to give them more than what they’re asking, not get away with doing as little as you can. You know the syndrome; doing just enough work to keep from getting fired. Who says that just because you’re in leadership that you have to be an ice-queen or a cold-fish and come in to work every morning with this super serious look on your face as if you’ve been sucking on lemons all night?!
Can I add this as a side note? Soft skills may be just the thing that provides you with job security. I say this because people do business with people they like! To prove my point, how many of those mean, ice-queen, cold-fish leaders has your organization gone through? Just some food for thought.
A great book to get you jump started into your soft skills transformation is David Livermore’s book, “Emotional Intelligence”.
“Soft Skills are the new currency!!!”
Successful Enterprises, your soft skills coach!